Navigating the hard
Sometimes life does not meet up to your expectations. Did you hear what I said? “Life does not meet up to your expectations.” You cannot set expectations where other people/relationships are concerned. Expectations are a pre-determined resentment. You set yourself up for so much pain and disappointment because things did not turn out the way you wanted. You expect others to say, perform, or think a certain way. When they do not, you become disappointed things are not turning out the way you envisioned.
Whether it is a friend, children, husband, or parent, they are their own person. Instead of setting expectations, you should create a relationship for autonomy. The people in your life are not there for you to control. Allowing the people you love to have more freedom creates more connection in the relationship. It’s not fair to meet them with judgement or criticism at every turn. You will create resentment and push them away when you present in this way.
Your responsibiity is to create a safe place where the relationship can blossom and grow. Show up with love and compassion not with resentment and judgement. Let your people know you are their biggest supporter and cheerleader no matter the choice they have made (even when you do not agree with it). You will create a closer relationship when you show up in love and compassion.
